Have you ever wished that you had a manual on how to become a super parent? Or a script for parenting where you would tick the boxes and everything goes as planned?
Well, you’re not alone. We all have had an overwhelming parenting day when we felt inadequate and beaten.
Raising up a child in favor with God and man is no mean feat. Christian parents have the pressure to be perfect and to bring up amazing kids.
The good news is, even though we cannot be perfect parents, there’s help in the holy scriptures. There are hundreds of verses on parenting you can use to set up your kids for success.
You may think that your parenting styles are the best then your children become wayward. Such outcomes make the parenting journey almost unbearable.
My parenting advice to you is, ‘…do not lean on your own understanding.’ Proverbs 3:5-6.
Children are God-Given
One reason why children are called bundles of joy is that they come to light up our lives. Pregnancy and childbirth may be tough experiences but the joy that comes with holding that baby is incomparable.
Children are gifts from God. He thoughtfully formed each one of them in their mothers’ wombs. The lord causes labor and delivery to happen and pre-determines where each kid is born.
‘Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you and before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.’
‘Children are a gift from God; they are a reward from Him.’
‘For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one came to be.’
‘From one man he made every nation of men, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he determined the times set for them and the exact places where they should live.’
‘Shall I bring a baby to the point of birth and not deliver it?” says the LORD. “Or will I who deliver close the womb?’ says your God.
The next time you wonder how to go about the parenting journey, remember that God caused it all from conception to delivery.
Your children are custom-made for you by the creator of the universe. There are enough Bible verses for parents to keep you going.
What God Expects From Children?
This parenting journey is a joint effort between parents and children. The holy scriptures have numerous verses for parents and for children too.
You may not have a script for parenting, but the Bible is an adequate parenting book. God didn’t leave any gaps when he gave instructions on parenting.
If human beings are to reap the fruit of righteousness, then both caregivers and kids should co-operate. The following scriptures about parenting show that God expects children to keep their part of the bargain.
‘Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.’
‘Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.’
‘A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish man despises his mother.’
‘Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.’
‘My child, listen when your father corrects you. Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction. What you learn from them will crown you with grace and be a chain of honor around your neck.’
‘Wise children pay attention when their parents correct them, but arrogant people never admit they are wrong.’
‘Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.’
As a father or mother, train your children to obey God’s commandments that directly address them. There are uncountable blessings for them if they heed the holy scriptures.
Let your kids understand that God expects them to make your parenting journey easier through obedience. You have a biblical role teach them what the bible says and they have a role to do practice the word.
Bible Verses about Parenting Roles
Every Christian parent ought to be aware of their biblical role in parenting. The numerous scriptures on parenting are to make you a wiser parent.
As previously discussed, child-birth and rearing is God’s idea from the beginning to the end. This fact makes parents stewards and not owners to their children.
God has placed you in a place of influence and expects you to nurture your kids in His ways. You are required to meet the physical, spiritual, and emotional needs of your children so that they can grow up wholesomely.
God expects you to offer spiritual guidance to your kids. Give them a constant reminder of the scriptures. Training in righteousness will benefit you and your children.
Do your part and let God perform that which you cannot. Some of the verses to parents regarding spiritual nurturing are:
‘Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.’
‘Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity.’
‘And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.’
Children need a parent who can give both guidance and friendship. If you teach them the word, provide for their needs but ignore their feelings, you’ll be parenting amiss. The verses below show how you can empathize and keep your kids’ emotions whole and their minds at peace.
‘Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.’
‘ Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.’
‘As a father shows compassion to his children, so the LORD shows compassion to those who fear him.’
‘Brothers, even if a man is caught in some fault, you who are spiritual must restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; looking to yourself so that you also aren’t tempted’
Physical / Material Provision
Catering for the physical needs of your family is your responsibility. God takes it so seriously that he inspired its inclusion in the scriptures. Your love for God and your family should keep you working towards a secure present and future for your children.
According to the verses below, you have a role to provide for your children now and also keep an inheritance for them. Parents who become a burden to their kids or demand financial support are missing the mark.
1 Timothy 5:8
‘But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.’
2 Corinthians 12:1
‘Here for the third time, I am ready to come to you. And I will not be a burden, for I seek not what is yours but you. For children are not obligated to save up for their parents, but parents for their children.’
‘A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children.’
Disciplining is part and parcel of the parenting journey. You cannot claim to love your kids and leave them to do as they wish. God disciplines those he loves, and so should you.
Regardless of the parenting style you choose, discipline key. This way, both you and your children will reap the harvest of righteousness. Some of the verses to parents about discipline are as stated below:
‘Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.’
‘The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.’
‘Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.’
‘Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.’
‘It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons.
Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live. For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness.
For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Drawing Encouragement From Bible Verses About Parenting
When you doubt your competence as a parent or you’re having an overwhelming parenting day, remember that God is your ever-present help. He will do what you cannot do by teaching your children’s spirits to obey His commandments.
‘Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who finds great delight in his commands. His children will be mighty in the land; the generation of the upright will be blessed.’
‘Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.’
‘All your children will be taught by the Lord, and great will be their peace.’
Parenting is a channel for us to express the love of God to our little ones. The unconditional love that God has shown us and continually pours upon us.
The word of God is a gift to parents. Seek guidance from the holy scriptures and enjoy the journey.